[CN: This article might bring up memories of retraumatization. Some people might feel guilt or shame for not ‘having done it right’. The article only offers ideas. There is no way to really do it right. We always do the best we can and positive results are never guaranteed, even if we know all the […]
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Resolving complex situations with DID parts
Sometimes we run into problems that are more complex than a flashback. It needs more than simple Grounding or separating past from present. Several parts are activated at the same time and they are influencing each other in a way that maintains the problem. We have to actively intervene. I will explain 3 different versions […]
Summer Break! Sommerpause!
Those who have been here for a while know that we always take some time off during summer (and December) to focus on other tasks. Somehow it is summer already. Where did the time go? We will be back with new articles after our break. Wenn ihr schon länger dabei seid, wisst, ihr, […]
Relational vs Integrative Approaches for inner Work
[CN: this post is very much pro Integrated Functioning and can cause difficult emotions in people who insist in seeing DID as ‘many people in one body’] There are 2 main ways to approach inner work with dissociative parts. One is based on building relationships between parts, the other is based on resolving the […]
Sleep exercise for people who tried everything else
So, you are not a beginner anymore when it comes to relaxation exercises and you’ve been working on your sleep for years. You have tried yoga, stretching, journaling, white noise, changing the white noise binaural beats, soundscapes, guided imagery, with and without inner helpers, micro imagery, mindfulness, listening, breathing exercises, passively watching the breath, […]
The Other Face of DID: Are we forgetting something?
The more recent literature that explains therapy approaches for DID seems to focus on impulsive behavior, visible stress responses and maladaptive coping like self-harm and drug use. It describes how demanding these patients are, how chaotic, and the kind of extreme boundaries it needs for therapists to protect themselves. I feel a growing unrest about […]
The Hours after Trauma Processing
The basic idea behind trauma processing is that trauma memories were stored but they weren’t integrated into our memory properly. They never became part of our life history and when they come up, it feels like they are happening now. Completely over-simplified, we can say that something about them didn’t settle right. When we process […]
The Way of Tears (Spirituality and Suffering)
During my own therapy process, therapists notice that my system seems stable and well connected. We have strong inner bonds, we pace ourselves better than anyone from the outside could do it, and even trauma processing is kind of smooth and safe. We do have something like a secret recipe for that and I will […]
In the Mirror of Ourselves (advanced)
[CN: We talk about patterns of neglect and injuries from not getting the help we deserved. The target audience are people who experienced torture and those who try to help them. It is painful to read when this has been your life experience. It might also trigger shame in those who tend to blame themselves […]
Integrating abuser-loyal Parts
Abuser-loyal parts often feel closely attached to abusers and hold warm feelings for them like love, gratefulness, awe etc. In the past, that was a helpful survival strategy because it has an appeasing effect. The efforts to please these people granted us more safety. We also split up the inner picture of abusive people in […]
Consolation and Comfort
Those who are sad need comfort. We may not know the concept of consolation because we never experienced it and had to hide inside a thick shell because grief would have been too great to bear alone. Engaging in consolation then requires courage. The emotional pain sometimes comes up very suddenly when someone offers us […]
Integrative Actions in Trauma Processing for DID
The concept behind trauma processing is usually to bring up the traumatic memory in a controlled setting, use an intervention to break up the fixed way in which it got stuck and then support the brain in re-organizing the memory in a new and more connected/integrated way. That is why you will find the term […]
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